Have you ever been to a gathering where food is being distributed and when they get to you, it’s finished? In fact, I have been to several occasions where additional food had to be prepared because people took large portions, and by the time servers reached the people at the back, the food was not enough. In most of these instances, I always hear people say; “the meal served last tasted the best”. It’s like the food had the best seasoning or best investments. Before this time many would have been hungry, upset and even left, but those who waited enjoyed a delicious portion of food.

In Genesis 2 above, God had just finished with creation then realized that something was missing; Adam did not have his kind. God created everything suitable for its type but for the man there had none. The Lord thought of a plan to make a helper for the man that looks like him. He put the man to sleep, and here moved a rib from his side and made a woman. God then presented this woman to the man and the two became one flesh.

Marriage was never a man’s idea, it’s never a contract of convenience, it’s never an experiment, it’s never a try, and see? It a lifetime commitment, a covenant with God in the center of it.

According to Mathew 9:4-6 stated above, God’s way of marriage is between a man and a woman, as he created them. The word of the Lord is the same throughout all generations. In a marriage covenant, the created man and woman, (not the altered version) presents (Romans 12:1) themselves to the altar as a living and holy sacrifice, and for the sacrifice to be blessed, God must accept it first.

God commands cannot change. Today, a woman lives with a man in the same house or even apart, but daily pollutes the sacrifice through sex or change of body parts. One day, they come wearing a white grown and black suit before God and ask to be married. This generation is already judged with the growing of all these wickedness and abominations before God.

Ministers of God don’t even care about how God feels. It’s just ok and life must go on. The devil is a lair. God will never change his standards. The church has a responsibility to maintain the standards of God.

James 4:8 “Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” The husband and wife must daily draw their strength from the word of God as they learn to draw closer towards each other.

According to James 5:16, asking for forgiveness should be a daily choice just as love is, because sometimes we wrong each other without noticing. 

James 5:16 “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” 

As we forgive, Satan will have nothing to hold onto when prayers are offered unto God. As husband and wife draw closer to God and to one another, they will be more forgiving of each other.

Prayer Points

1. Repent and plea for mercy and forgiveness where the church has gone wrong.

2. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 “10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: 10 If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

Marriage is about giving out of love. God created everything with its own kind and saw that man was alone, and he decided to create a woman. He understood from his creation, the value of two, and so two would always be better than one because they will encourage, help, love, and support, each other in every aspect of their being. Pray for this concept to help marriages, not any act of selfishness or what one will get but what to give.

3. Proverbs 24:3-4 “3 By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established;4 through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”

The Bible says that if any make lacks wisdom, he should ask God. Wisdom, knowledge and understanding are great tools in establishing a good marriage. Pray that every husband and wife will continue to ask God for these tools daily, so that they fill their homes with beautiful treasures that come from the Lord.

4. Genesis 18:19 “For I have chosen him, so that he will command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just, in order that the LORD may bring upon Abraham what He has promised.”

Pray for the husbands whom the Lord has chosen to direct their families. Most husbands have left this responsibility to their wives.

5. Psalms 1:1-3 “1 Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, 2 but whose delight is in the law of the LORD, and who meditates on his law day and night. 3 That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither— whatever they do prospers.”

Pray for the grace to choose their friends wisely as well as dwell in his God. Husband and wife must delight in the word of God and not waste their time in relationships that are not of God but constantly mock God. They should be able to choose and not relate with ungodliness. Pray that God will rescue those who are actively engaged with the ungodly.

6. Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”

Pray that marriages will allow the expressions of God in their lives, so that they are able to experience the fruits of the Spirit that can help them shape their daily living.

7. Romans 15:5-6 “5 May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, 6 so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

The devil does not like unity and therefore will fight to ensure couples don’t walk in agreement. Pray for the grace that brings endurance and encouragement, so that husbands and wives may have one mind and one voice and thus bring glory to God.

8. Joshua 24:15 “But if it is unpleasing in your sight to serve the LORD, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living. As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD!”

Pray that in this generation, God will still find serious believers who will stand for God and declare that they and their household are for the Lord.

9. Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

Sometimes the words that come out of the mouths of couples, are enough to kill a person if care is not taken. The devil knows how to stir the pot, but the word of God says it differently even in the midst of an argument. Pray that God will grant the grace of words, so that husbands and wives are careful on their choices of words towards each other.

10. Psalm 78:5-7 “5 For He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which He commanded our fathers to teach to their children, 6 that the coming generation would know them—even children yet to be born—to arise and tell their own children 7 that they should put their confidence in God, not forgetting His works, but keeping His commandments.”

Pray that the seed of Abraham passed through from generation to generation about the commands of God, that couples will learn from and put their confidence in God. We live in a generation that we are told that other things matter more than God and you can just attach God and still make it. What a lie of the devil. Pray that God will raise couples of integrities in this generation to pass on only the truth of who God really is.

11. Philippians 2:3-7 “3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. 5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: 6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; 7 rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.”

Pray for humility in marriage so that the spirit of selfishness will not reign; but instead, allow couples to complement one another, value one another, and look out for the good of one another.

Pray for the mind of Christ to reign so that husband and wife will be able to serve each without limitations.

12. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”

Pray that the verses above become a reality not just words in the lives of the husband and the wife. Not the kind of love of the world but the love that the Heavenly Father had towards man and was motivated to send his son to the cross.

13. Hebrews 13:4 “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”

Pray that the church will respect the institution of marriage. God views marriage as he views his relationship with the church. The marriage bed must not be defiled. The wife is a good thing. If God did not see the good in us, there is no way Jesus would have given his glory up for us.

14. Romans 7:2-3 “2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him. 3 So then, if she has sexual relations with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress if she marries another man.” 

Malachi 2:16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.”

In our modern-day society, everything is permitted and unfortunately, the church has embraced the worldly perspective. God hates divorce, so that church must do everything possible to protect marriages. Instead, the church has a divorce department, but not a counseling and prayer department. We must pray that the church will arise and go back to the word of God.

15. Ephesians 6:12 “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

There are so many anti-marital forces assigned by the devil to destroy marriages and make it look like a bad thing. Pray against those forces in the name of Jesus.

16. 1 Timothy 4:4-5: For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.”

Thank God for everything about marriage, especially those who have kept God’s word in marriage.