““6 But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. 7 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.””
Marriage was never a worldly idea but God’s right from the beginning of creation. God had a plan in place for how marriage would look like. He created two people, a man and a woman, and then he declared his word over them , saying the man would leave his family and go take his wife and after that, God will make them one flesh by the power of his word. This means that one cannot just get up and get married as easily as we do today. There is a process. For the seek of time, we will not go too deep for now.
Colossians 1:16-17 : “16 For in Him all things were created, things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities. All things were created through Him and for Him. 17 He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together.”
According to this Colossians 1:16-17, all things were created, things in heaven and earth, visible or invisible …. If everything was already created, it means spouses were also created and ready to be picked up. It is now left for you to locate the one created for you specifically (flesh of your flesh). The word ‘in him’ refers to Christ Jesus. He is the center of gravity, and everything must revolve around him for it to be successful. Therefore, since everything is in Christ, a descend marriage or spouse will be found only in Him as well.
There is a process that needs someone who will patiently wait on the Lord to order their steps to the right path, right time, and right person.
James 5:7-8 “7 Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient about it, until it receives the early and the late rains. 8 You also, be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand.”
James 5:7-8 encourages us to wait until the Lord comes, meaning we wait for his timing, direction, and process. When it’s the right time, he will come, speak, and give directions on how to proceed. This process is described as a farmer waiting for his harvest. After planting, the farmer waits for the harvest. During the waiting time, the farmer watches the clouds and the rains, visits the farm, removes the weeds, and prepares a place to store his fruits. He is busy, although with his eyes on his harvest. Waiting for a spouse is a process as well. You invest time to worship God in word, prayer, and fellowship, serve God, be active in your local church, and be dedicated to the work of God. Preparing yourself spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically.
I Kings 6:7: “In building the temple, only blocks dressed at the quarry were used, and no hammer, chisel or any other iron tool was heard at the temple site while it was being built.”
Everyone ready to be a husband or a wife must go through the quarry site (1 Kings 6:7). This is the place where the clay meets with the potter (Jeremiah 18:6), and the potter molds and shapes the clay into the man and woman as he deems feet for each other. Only such prepared at the quarry site by the potter are fit to be used in building God’s temple. Remember, when the two come together in marriage, they become one- melted together at the altar. It is at the quarry site that one becomes a husband and a wife, thus Proverbs 18:22 “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.” The man then leaves the quarry site as a husband to go look for the woman from the quarry site as well as a wife; he receives a favor from the owner of the quarry site because he followed instructions. He finds a wife; called a good thing because she also came from the quarry site, and the owner knows she is good. Remember the words used in Proverbs 18:22: He who finds a wife; not a child, girl, etc, but a wife. The ‘ He’ used here is not a child or a boy. Both are already prepared as husband and wife. Many marriages have issues because this process was not done or done right. May God help his church.
Genesis 24 gives us a template of a Godly marriage, but for the sake of time, we will just summarize some key things.
Genesis 24:3-4 “3 I want you to swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, 4 but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac.”
Abraham sends his servant to go find for a wife for his son Isaac (proverbs 18:22). He is a spiritual man; he must have been praying; he sends his servant to a particular place and kind of people. Abraham wants to ensure that his son marries a woman who fears God. He takes a step of faith and sends his servant, who also prayed and took a step of faith. Finally, wife Rebecca was found- a good thing (Proverbs 18:22) and came by faith to meet a husband she had never seen. God is glorified at the end.
2 Corinthians 6:14: "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
Abraham did not want his son to marry an unbeliever; the people around his community because he knew them. As parents, we may not directly tell our children who to marry in this modern age where they want to make their own discoveries and decisions, but we have a responsibility to pray and counsel (those who can listen) them even at their early ages and at the age of marriage to those who still have listening ears. Most marriages today are really a disaster before God. The church must do better. We must invest work to make marriages respected in the body of Christ.
Prayer Points
According to Mark 10:6-9, God created a man and a woman. God instituted the covenant of marriage and put forth how it had to be done. People have interpreted it in their own way. Let us come before in repentance and plead for mercy.
According to Colossians 1:16-17, quoted above, all things have already been made in Christ, and it’s only through him we can get a quality wife and husband material. Pray that God will give the church the grace to teach the word with understanding. Pray that the Holy Spirit will give revelation of the word of God in the hearts of minds of his people.
According to James 5:7-8 quoted above, pray for the grace of patience for those waiting on God for their spouses. Pray that they will wait and be active as a farmer. Pray that while waiting, they will prepare right and serve God.
According to 1 Kings 6:7, quoted above, pray that every man and woman desiring marriage will allow themselves to be molded by the potter at the quarry site.
Proverbs 4:10-12 “Listen, my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many. 11 I instruct you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths. 12 When you walk, your steps will not be hampered; when you run, you will not stumble.”
5. Pray for the grace of discernment, especially to counselors and mentors who guide young people into marriage. Pray that God will help them help these young ones. Pray that those seeking counseling will also have open hearts to receive counsel, not just attend them as a church requirement.
Genesis 1:27: “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”
6. God created a man and a woman in his image, there was never an error, pray against this identity crisis that has exploded and is exploiting our church communities today.
2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
7. Destinies have been destroyed, lives lost, people turned away from the truth because the enemy has always use false believers to manipulate lives. Pray against these lies, deception, manipulation and the tactics of the devil that often blinds the eyes of many to fall into this trap of “he or she is a believer “when they are actually wolves in sheep clothing.
John 16:13 “Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.”
Proverbs 2:6 “For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”
8. Pray that the Spirit of the Lord will guide the leadership of the church in providing the right knowledge, understanding and wisdom to guide and prepare properly our children and young men and women getting in marriage.
Isaiah 40:31 “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”
Romans 8:28 “And we know that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.”
Ecclesiastes 3:11 “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”
9. For those waiting, ask God for the grace to wait on him so that you will be strengthen even as you continue to wait. During waiting, God makes all things works for the waiter’s own good and at the end of the day God makes it beautiful.
Song of Solomon 8:4 “I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.”
Hebrew 13:4: “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous”
10. Pray that our children, sisters, and brothers waiting on God will keep their purity and not defile themselves with sexual immorality before marriage because God brings judgement on such behaviors.
Proverbs 18:22: “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.”
11. For those who are still at the quarry site, dedicated and faithfully waiting on God, pray for help from above.
12. Pray for the anointing for marriage to come upon them so they can be located by those spouses.
Ephesians 6:12:“For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”
Isaiah 10:27 : And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder, and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing.”
13. For some, it’s household witchcraft, wickedness, foundation, covenants, yokes, etc, standing in the way of marital settlement. It’s a new season; we are standing on a new covenant; we are a new creation in Christ Jesus; we have been washed by the word and cleansed by the blood of Jesus. We have overcome all things that were written against us in our family bloodlines, etc.
Therefore, we must stand like in the days of John the Baptist and take our deliverance by force.
Declare that every yoke must fall off your life and let you go free into your marriage in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen and Amen.